tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33155906147673465042024-02-06T18:42:19.695-08:00Stories to ShareTess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.comBlogger141125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-31038904807096952672017-02-01T18:27:00.002-08:002017-02-01T18:34:23.556-08:00ISWG post February 2017<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ehIq_Z1qPNc/Vl7xyJnb0OI/AAAAAAAAAko/FrePvJM08fIlRNlnqoSZw_uXh2GZy2a5QCPcB/s1600/InsecureWritersSupportGroup2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ehIq_Z1qPNc/Vl7xyJnb0OI/AAAAAAAAAko/FrePvJM08fIlRNlnqoSZw_uXh2GZy2a5QCPcB/s320/InsecureWritersSupportGroup2.jpg" width="320" height="273" /></a></div><br />
It's the first Wednesday and time for the ISWG post! Can't believe it's already February! You can find the link<br />
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It has been non-stop at my house lately and I this is the first time all day that I've had a chance to pause and write this blog. I've been trying to blog every Wednesday but I got behind in that too.<br />
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The prompt for ISWG this month is how writing has changed me as a reader, and I know there are a couple of big things. One is that I don't waste my time with bad writing anymore. There are just too many good books out there to spend time with ones that are a chore to wade through. I have my favorite genres but I'm open to try new ones as long as the writing and storyline are entertaining or informative. Another thing that has changed is that as I read, I pause and think about what I liked and how the writer was able to convey that successfully to me as a reader. I use those tidbits in my writing.<br />
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I'm in the process of writing my daughter's story, and I passed the 20,000 word mark. Not as fast as I would like to go but steady progress, none the less. I also sent the first ten pages off to a group that would help promote the book and it was passed on to yet another person to have a look. (They already have a book published for children about the work they do but the memoir would really be a boost)<br />
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I also wanted to give a shout out to Alex Cavanaugh for his book CassaFire, which I finished reading recently.<br />
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I think I have a bit of a crush on the main character Byron, and trust me, if they ever made a movie based on his series I'd be in line to see it! Really well written, definitely on par with Star Wars and Star Trek. I'm not even a sci-fi fan but I enjoyed both books so far and will be getting the rest of his books.<br />
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Finally, I take a minute to breathe and read quotes from my Daily Peace book from National Geo. The theme for February is Healing, and the quote for today is:<br />
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<b>"What is required of us is that we love the difficult and learn to deal with it. In the difficult are the friendly forces, the hands that work on us."</b> - Rainer Maria Rilke<br />
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I think of my daughter with this quote, because working through a traumatic experience is hard and difficult. I watch her struggle every day, but the strength she finds to get up and keep trying is inspiring. If anything, I've learned that all that matters in life is family, friends, and love, because those are the friendly forces that are there when the going gets tough.<br />
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Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-69442218510987630302017-01-11T10:06:00.001-08:002017-01-11T10:08:31.802-08:00Transition<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-6wSIG59wRVk/WHZwf4x_drI/AAAAAAAAAzw/Me8NhrO9Y3UvV4DFxbHqjMYcKqvbF7OaACLcB/s1600/winter.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-6wSIG59wRVk/WHZwf4x_drI/AAAAAAAAAzw/Me8NhrO9Y3UvV4DFxbHqjMYcKqvbF7OaACLcB/s320/winter.jpeg" width="320" height="199" /></a></div><br />
<b>"Progress is impossible without change; and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything." - George Bernard Shaw<br />
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I actually really like this quote. Who hasn't at some point realized that everything they thought they knew was totally wrong? I've kind of gone through life learning this lesson over and over again. Guess I had to learn the hard way!<br />
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I was hoping to have a book review to post on but because of technical difficulties I still haven't finished. This is why I still prefer the good, old-fashioned paper books. First, my credit card expired, so when I tried updating it, I went into an endless loop on the website and had to play around with it until it finally went through. Then, my charger broke, so the tablet died and I had to wait until I got to the store to buy a new one. Finally, I just consistently forget to charge things, so I pick up my tablet to read only to find it's almost dead and I have to wait until the batteries charged again. Aargh!!<br />
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I still just really love the feel of real books anyway. It's comforting to me- like having a cup of hot chocolate on a snowy day!Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-62662976850747287602017-01-03T18:15:00.001-08:002017-01-05T07:10:06.561-08:00ISWG post for January 2017<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ehIq_Z1qPNc/Vl7xyJnb0OI/AAAAAAAAAko/FrePvJM08fIlRNlnqoSZw_uXh2GZy2a5QCPcB/s1600/InsecureWritersSupportGroup2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ehIq_Z1qPNc/Vl7xyJnb0OI/AAAAAAAAAko/FrePvJM08fIlRNlnqoSZw_uXh2GZy2a5QCPcB/s320/InsecureWritersSupportGroup2.jpg" width="320" height="273" /></a></div><br />
A writer's group that supports one another every first Wednesday of the month in all our fears and insecurities. Click on the <a href="http://www.alexjcavanaugh.com/p/the-insecure-writers-support-group.html">link</a> to join.<br />
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The prompt for this month is what writing rule do we wish we never heard of. Mine would be to not switch point of view. I don't get that one because I've read so many great novels that switch and I think it adds depth and fullness to the story. It must be done with care, but I think that rule needs to be tossed!<br />
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I have been continuing to work on my memoir, thanks to all the support and encouragement I get here every month. I'm up to 18,000 words, and my goal is to hit 50,000 before I start tweeking it for submission. I've been preparing for that moment for years, and had some dry runs, but this time around I have a lot more at stake. I just have to keep working at it, and this month I'm proud to report I have been.<br />
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Every week I post a quote and inspirational picture to try to stay positive. I get my ideas and quotes from National Geographic's Daily Peace book. The great thing about the book is it's not date related, so every year I can just start over again. January's theme is Transition, and the quote I chose for this week is,<br />
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"True progress quietly and persistently moves along without notice." St. Francis de Sales<br />
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This applies to much more in my life than just writing!<br />
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Look forward to seeing you on the ISWG rounds this month.Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-45263254769058053692016-12-29T12:25:00.002-08:002016-12-29T12:25:30.971-08:00When all else fails. . .<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-9sMLoQD1j9k/WGVtSVphEUI/AAAAAAAAAzU/QH-rPJy7aik01oRWEttYrXO8wWoyjExYQCLcB/s1600/sea%2Bturtle.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-9sMLoQD1j9k/WGVtSVphEUI/AAAAAAAAAzU/QH-rPJy7aik01oRWEttYrXO8wWoyjExYQCLcB/s320/sea%2Bturtle.jpg" width="320" height="240" /></a></div><br />
"Smile, breathe and go slowly." - Thich Nhat Hanh<br />
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After a rough week, things are looking up. It has been 2 years since my daughter was diagnosed with PTSD and the fight to help her recover has been marked with ups and downs. Part of the process is dealing with the grief and unresolved loss, because when a family member suffers an illness and resulting disability, there is no moving on. You are just stuck in this endless cycle of coping with what at times is a very overwhelming situation. Unfortunately, like most mental illnesses, there is no cure for PTSD. <br />
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But I am grateful for the small things, like the fact that I still have her after someone tried to kill her. I believe that it was the power of her families' love that helped her survive that situation, and it is our love that is supporting her now. <br />
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I'm grateful for other things, like having a job I love, friends that listen when I'm overwhelmed, kind and good children, a husband who loves me, my animals and their blind devotion, bookstores, coffee, wine, and good cheese. I'm grateful for nature- trees, animals, mountains, beaches, and streams. So for 2017, I'm just going to "Smile, breathe, and go slowly."Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-38078648166268761062016-12-21T16:25:00.003-08:002016-12-21T19:41:19.633-08:00Just a thought<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ZFK5Zgwbn8E/WFscWYYhG7I/AAAAAAAAAy8/CKw_F0b0VhAOYMB92HSBz6S_lDv7CnQewCLcB/s1600/just%2Bbreathe.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ZFK5Zgwbn8E/WFscWYYhG7I/AAAAAAAAAy8/CKw_F0b0VhAOYMB92HSBz6S_lDv7CnQewCLcB/s320/just%2Bbreathe.jpeg" width="320" height="179" /></a></div><br />
I'm not gonna lie, it's been a rough week, which is why this quote resonated with me.<br />
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"Sorrow can be alleviated by good sleep, a bath, and a glass of wine." - St. Thomas Aquinas<br />
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With that thought, we will soon be wrapping up 2016 and looking forward to a new year. What will it bring? Sometimes that can be too overwhelming to contemplate, so I'll take each day as it comes.<br />
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"The best things in life aren't things." - Art Buchwald<br />
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Animals bring me such comfort. My whole life I've been an animal fanatic, and now I watch them slowly begin to heal my family from a difficult situation. Both the animals in the picture are rescues from the humane society, and that cat has more personality than any animal I've ever owned. They are both very spoiled and loved, but especially him.<br />
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Recently I started watching a series on Viceland call Abandoned. I marathon watched the entire season. This is the kind of television that I like to watch because it explores social changes and digs deeper into the changing world around us. A lot of people from outside the United States have been watching what's happening here and are confused. To them, they have no idea why people are wanting "to make America great again". <br />
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I lived in South America for 3 years doing volunteer work, and being an American there made me a bit of a rock star. Just because of where I came from, people admired me. After the 3 years of living there, I came back to the U.S. and was grateful for the simple things, like reliable, clean, running water. But life in the U.S. has changed in the mere 20 years since I've moved back, and while it is still much better than many other countries, Abandoned shows a shocking side of the American life style that most people abroad don't know about, and has been very hard to explain.<br />
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That being said, I think the reason people here are unhappy here has nothing to do with who they are blaming, and watching the rising wave of hatred, distrust, and violence is alarming, to put it mildly. It's giving me anxiety that's for sure. To balance it out I spend time cuddling my animals and being outside, loving my family and having faith in God. <br />
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Sometimes, you just need to breathe, and be grateful for that!Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-44353769181166390072016-12-07T06:19:00.002-08:002016-12-07T06:27:26.483-08:00ISWG post<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Sm7wgv-Pm7E/WBn4l31TDDI/AAAAAAAAAvE/wYWxkuqAAYYXA3fBYFHAUQFxM9ML_fQ6QCPcB/s1600/Insecure%2BWriters%2BSupport%2BGroup%2BBadge.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Sm7wgv-Pm7E/WBn4l31TDDI/AAAAAAAAAvE/wYWxkuqAAYYXA3fBYFHAUQFxM9ML_fQ6QCPcB/s320/Insecure%2BWriters%2BSupport%2BGroup%2BBadge.jpg" width="320" height="315" /></a></div><br />
Time to share our progress and insecurities again!<br />
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I have not completely stalled while writing, but pretty close. The memoir I'm writing is the second version- the first one was scrapped at about 50,000 words. I have about 13,000 words right now, but it's just really, <i>really</i> hard to set aside the time to write, especially when my family is scrounging through unfolded piles of laundry for underwear and socks!<br />
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Despite where my writing is right now, this blog has been a great way for me to practice, experiment, and connect with other writers, and it's still evolving.<br />
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One thing I've been thinking of, and wondering, is how other writer's view the responsibility and impact of WHAT they write. The reason this is important to me is because my daughter was the victim of a violent crime, and the perpetrator was directly influenced by things that were written on the internet. (They were classmates) Imagine writing in the horror genre, and inventing stories of gory violence, only to find out that a crime was committed linked directly to what you wrote. <br />
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Just curious as to how you writer's out there feel about this delicate issue- because where do we draw the line between entertainment and just plain sadistic and disturbing stories?<br />
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December's ISWG question is where do we see ourselves in five years, and how do we plan to get there?<br />
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In five years, I hope to at least have a book in the process of being published. In other words, the memoir is finished and I have an agent. Maybe it will already be done! I just want to get myself out there and be established as an official writer, instead of how I feel, which is like a wannabe.<br />
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On the lighter side- my quote for the day is<br />
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"It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." - Laura Ingalls Wilder<br />
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Taken from the Daily Peace by National Geographic. December's theme is simplicity- who couldn't use simplifying in their life?<br />
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Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-85711868530683122692016-12-01T06:16:00.002-08:002016-12-01T06:16:41.094-08:00Love<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-PjaErQA6zGI/WEAngiURCdI/AAAAAAAAAxY/FOeREUPtKhI1eF7av-Y5uhF1G8ikKZn7ACLcB/s1600/birch%2Btrees.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-PjaErQA6zGI/WEAngiURCdI/AAAAAAAAAxY/FOeREUPtKhI1eF7av-Y5uhF1G8ikKZn7ACLcB/s320/birch%2Btrees.jpg" width="320" height="220" /></a></div>'<br />
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"When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too." - Paulo Coelho<br />
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This quote is for you, Michelle Wallace! From the author of The Alchemist. <br />
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Being a nurse, I see people in their rawest, most unguarded moments, and trials like sickness and death bring out the best, and the worst, qualities in people. In those moments, it doesn't matter what material possessions they have acquired, but the depth of the relationships of those around them. It's really hard to stand by and watch as families abandon each other and walk away because it's too hard and inconvenient to continue to care for someone. <br />
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I understand the sacrifice of being a caregiver. I found myself unexpectedly in that position two years ago, and am still there now. But every moment I give up for myself, I am repaid in love and gratitude many times over. That gives me the strength to continue, even when I get discouraged or tired. <br />
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We will all be on either side of this equation at one point in our lives- whether as the caregiver or the sick one, and how we treat others will make or break us. That being said, I do understand how complicated relationships can be. It is certainly easier to care for someone who is appreciative than one who is demanding and abusive, even taking into account their pain and suffering.<br />
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Take the days one at a time, don't be overwhelmed, take joy in the little things, and love those around you.Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-48675944379039785092016-11-23T15:50:00.000-08:002016-11-23T15:50:09.596-08:00Kindness- what does it mean to you?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-lR2K6TsKkxo/WDYmhVi8ikI/AAAAAAAAAw4/UH1_KsjNNvokAXSQZPMIe-SPqkN_hM6kACLcB/s1600/morning%2Bmist.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-lR2K6TsKkxo/WDYmhVi8ikI/AAAAAAAAAw4/UH1_KsjNNvokAXSQZPMIe-SPqkN_hM6kACLcB/s320/morning%2Bmist.jpeg" width="320" height="199" /></a></div><br />
"One of the deep secrets of life is that all that is really worth the doing is what we do for others." -Lewis Carroll<br />
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What does kindness mean to you?<br />
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To me it means treating every living thing- whether person, animal, or the Earth itself, with respect. Among people most of all, it doesn't matter what socio-economic class they belong to, what race, religion, or political group they identify with, what language they speak, or what values they hold, even if they differ from mine, I think to be treat them all with kindness is the right thing to do.<br />
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It's not always easy, especially when people can inflict hate for no apparent reason at all. Sometimes kindness means intervening when hate begins to encroach on other people's human rights.<br />
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Being kind is not weak, rather it is having the strength to be good, and choosing the right thing, even when outside influences may make that difficult. It means being able to sacrifice some comfort for myself, so that others can be more comfortable. <br />
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"Always be a little kinder than necessary."- J.M.Barrie<br />
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In a divisive world full of hate, intolerance, and prejudice, it is possible to be kind, and that has a way of being paid forward. My job affords me plenty of opportunities to be kind, and sometimes it's the small things that count as the most important.<br />
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One act of kindness this week that I had the chance to do was hold a hand during a distressing procedure. My patient clutched my hand throughout and was deeply appreciative of my willingness to be there at the moment. Sure, I had other things to do, but sometimes the sacrifice for another human being's comfort is worth it, and it gives their life worth too.<br />
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Maybe this post can inspire you to an act of kindness today? Pay it forward.<br />
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Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-44784369217535583742016-11-09T08:26:00.000-08:002016-11-09T08:26:19.928-08:00Psychopath<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dbP6v5wMrNg/WCNHJeM-FEI/AAAAAAAAAvU/SMM1MVXDOLgyQSuicN3SmV5ryfh52fH6wCLcB/s1600/broken.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dbP6v5wMrNg/WCNHJeM-FEI/AAAAAAAAAvU/SMM1MVXDOLgyQSuicN3SmV5ryfh52fH6wCLcB/s320/broken.jpeg" width="320" height="320" /></a></div><br />
The evil character of fiction is not just in books. Sometimes reality can be worse than fantasy, and sometimes I look around and think, does no one see what's going on? Is there no good left? Because people seem intent on being the three monkeys who see no evil, hear no evil, and speak no evil, as if by doing so will make it non-existent. <br />
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I read the book, "Without Conscience" by Dr. Hare awhile back and suddenly the rose-colored glasses were lifted. I liked to think that there might be good in all people until I read this, and then everything made sense to me. I was reeling from finding out my daughter was the victim of a violent crime, and the louder I cried out for justice, the more society turned it's back. I don't know which was worse, the actual crime, or society's reaction to it. This is in part my platform that I am writing about.<br />
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So what is a psychopath? They are the wolf in sheep's clothing. They have a facade of being like everyone else, with one serious exception. They have no conscience. That means that they can do whatever they want, and they don't care what other people think or feel. That may sound harmless, but what if they are greedy and want to be rich? They will find a way to con or steal, regardless of how it affects their victims. What if they like to hurt people? Think serial rapists or killers. One example is the new one in S. Carolina. He raped a girl but his mother said he shouldn't go to jail because he walked her home afterwards, therefore he couldn't be the monster he seemed. He did go to jail, but on his release he then ran a successful real estate company and they now believe he has killed at least 7 people.<br />
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Just because a person says they are a good person, and only act for the greater good, do you believe it, despite obvious evidence to the contrary?<br />
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The opposite of a psychopath is kindness and empathy.<br />
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My quote for the day is:<br />
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"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive." -Dalai Lama XIV<br />
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We must care about not just ourselves, but everyone else, and our beautiful planet Earth. It's our responsibility, and I will live my life to my dying day under that philosophy.<br />
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Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-29278412133736627502016-11-02T07:50:00.002-07:002016-11-02T07:50:47.200-07:00ISWG Wednesday!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Sm7wgv-Pm7E/WBn4l31TDDI/AAAAAAAAAu8/ny4O7JEwMX4lstUnOmRbeERh3mu-W20xQCLcB/s1600/Insecure%2BWriters%2BSupport%2BGroup%2BBadge.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Sm7wgv-Pm7E/WBn4l31TDDI/AAAAAAAAAu8/ny4O7JEwMX4lstUnOmRbeERh3mu-W20xQCLcB/s320/Insecure%2BWriters%2BSupport%2BGroup%2BBadge.jpg" width="320" height="315" /></a></div><br />
My post for ISWG Wednesday. Join us <a href="http://http://www.insecurewriterssupportgroup.com/p/iwsg-sign-up.html"></a>!<br />
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I must confess! Since my last post I've done absolutely zero writing! My life has been insane and I can't keep up with anything :(<br />
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A window into my life is working close to 30 hours a week, driving sometimes 100 miles a day to commute to work and appointments. I take my daughter into therapy twice a week, plus now therapeutic horseback riding lessons, and this week an additional doctor appointment on top of that. We started homeschooling our youngest child, so I have to check on things related to that (thankfully she is very independent). Then add the usual household things like grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, cooking, and caring for my mini-zoo of 3 dogs and 2 cats. <br />
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Every time I think things will settle down, they don't, but every once in a while I get the urge to write and then go at it for days on end. Plus the story I'm writing still has no ending so I have no urgency to finish immediately. But I know this is true for others out there too- we all truly live crazy lives in this rat race.<br />
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I've also been posting quotes from a book by Nat'l Geo called Daily Peace, and the theme for November is kindness. The quote for today is,<br />
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"It is the heart always that sees, before the head can see." - Thomas Carlyle<br />
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I love the theme for this month, but I fear kindness is a dying quality. Our environment and social climate has nothing to do with the greater good of all, but is driven by greed and selfishness. I see it every day in big and small ways, but it is not all gloom and doom, because I believe God will step in someday and save us from ourselves. I highly recommend the documentary Before the Flood with Leonardo Di Caprio, if you want to know what I'm talking about.Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-46349209669358543602016-09-27T17:52:00.000-07:002016-09-27T17:54:45.108-07:00Set Her Free<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-cldl-Yvi2MU/V-sM7LqoEvI/AAAAAAAAAtg/RUytrBWPWSYQwZDOCVAgM5NMQGGN2DOQQCLcB/s1600/set%2Bher%2Bfree.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-cldl-Yvi2MU/V-sM7LqoEvI/AAAAAAAAAtg/RUytrBWPWSYQwZDOCVAgM5NMQGGN2DOQQCLcB/s320/set%2Bher%2Bfree.jpg" width="320" height="212" /></a></div><br />
September 27th<br />
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"I do not understand the mystery of grace- only that it meets us where we are and does not leave us where it found us."<br />
- Anne Lamott (quote from Daily Peace by National Geographic)<br />
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I'm not really sure what the context of this quote is, but taken in a spiritual sense, I have to say that with all that I've been through recently, if it were not for my faith I don't believe I could have survived. I've come out wiser, sadder, but not bitter. <br />
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I just finished reading this book, (see my review on Goodreads). The author was forced from her farm in Zimbabwe under the Mugabe government, and proceeded to rescue horses from abuse and neglect, shuttling them from place to place until they finally came to Mozambique. To me it's another important story that needs to be told of how we have failed our stewardship of this beautiful planet. <br />
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Also finished the second book in this combo, Shadows on the Grass. <br />
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Read any good books lately?<br />
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"Don't get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life." - Dolly Parton (From Daily Peace by National Geographic)<br />
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Of course that's easily said by a multi-millionaire in the entertainment world, not that I don't agree, but in the real world, it's hard to find a balance. In the modern world with all the "conveniences" that are supposed to make our lives easier, why are we struggling to find time to spend with our family and do the things we love?<br />
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Not everything is in our control, but I've been working to simplify our lives. If there is less stuff, there is less mess to clean up. Neither my husband nor I have ever been big shoppers, but we have kids, and that means an endless cycle of buying clothes as they grow and cleaning out the old. Same with toys, and I have to admit I give in to buying more than is necessary in that department.<br />
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Streamlining my life leaves me more time to read and of course, write. <br />
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Any thoughts?Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-89223926596363236592016-09-07T09:28:00.002-07:002016-09-07T09:29:34.144-07:00Back again! <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-xpSWUgPkv6I/V9A_KrYefvI/AAAAAAAAAsc/FAjDu8BNNvcasGshuyyjZNZ4Xl9A0Jj3ACLcB/s1600/Insecure%2BWriters%2BSupport%2BGroup%2BBadge.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-xpSWUgPkv6I/V9A_KrYefvI/AAAAAAAAAsc/FAjDu8BNNvcasGshuyyjZNZ4Xl9A0Jj3ACLcB/s320/Insecure%2BWriters%2BSupport%2BGroup%2BBadge.jpg" width="320" height="315" /></a></div><br />
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Here's to being consistent and not getting kicked out of IWSG for non participation!<br />
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I've been writing off and on for years, submitting even less, and stopping altogether for long periods of time. I'm back to writing and have a great start on my book, which is non-fiction. But time and life get in the way and it's hard to stay on track. I'm looking forward to more consistency and progress, and connecting again with people who understand the challenges and continue to be supportive!Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com17tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-64586152285197462902016-08-30T18:18:00.002-07:002016-08-30T18:18:52.380-07:00Don't call it a dream, call it a plan<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-PdkJG96qeGs/V8Yj1XY7vGI/AAAAAAAAArY/Y8xsQM9Y1p4zJPejb7rKWHXEsyBkiztbgCLcB/s1600/in-all-things-of-nature-there-is-something-of-marvelous.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-PdkJG96qeGs/V8Yj1XY7vGI/AAAAAAAAArY/Y8xsQM9Y1p4zJPejb7rKWHXEsyBkiztbgCLcB/s320/in-all-things-of-nature-there-is-something-of-marvelous.jpg" width="320" height="215" /></a></div><br />
My post title is a quote from a calender hanging in my house. It's my new motto. <br />
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I've been subscribing to the backpacker's magazine for over a year now but I'm no closer to actually going on a trip. But no worries, it's not such a stretch for me. I've camped my whole life, although it has come to camping in a fully equipped trailer over the past several years. I've also hiked my whole life, but not both together. <br />
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The thought of backpacking, while conjuring romantic pictures of sitting in a flowering meadow on a mountain while holding a cup of steaming coffee, is probably going to be pouring rain, bug bites, and shivering through the night and wishing I packed that warm sweater. And that scares me. That and my limited budget. Buying every conceivable need is expensive, so my plan is to start with baby steps. Small trips, purchases well thought out, and getting back into physical shape.<br />
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Does any of this involve writing? Of course it does, but mostly just finding some way to disconnect from the frantic life I lead and find peace again. I long for that. <br />
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So what are your plans?Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-86971881670473670342016-08-24T20:44:00.001-07:002016-08-24T20:44:08.926-07:00Perspective<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-kgfQsWKR3t0/V75mDK3l1EI/AAAAAAAAAq8/Z7ZaS3KrtKoN9aFkKHRURmR0OBb-MLrJACLcB/s1600/flowers.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-kgfQsWKR3t0/V75mDK3l1EI/AAAAAAAAAq8/Z7ZaS3KrtKoN9aFkKHRURmR0OBb-MLrJACLcB/s320/flowers.jpeg" width="320" height="199" /></a></div><br />
"You pray in your distress and in your need; would that you might pray also in the fullness of your joy and in your days of abundance." Kahlil Gibran<br />
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Quote from Daily Peace book by National Geographic<br />
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I've revamped my blog and deleted a lot of personal posts that I had written as my own therapeutic way of dealing with a crisis. While my crisis is far from over, I've learned not to live it day and night, and that escape is good too. <br />
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I have been journalling, and for the first time in my life I actually finished out an entire book! I've been to one, sadly yes, just one meeting of the local writing association, but the speaker had an idea that I really liked. It was a 5 year journal that each page was divided into 5 small sections, and each entry was a small excerpt of what happened that day. At the end of the year, you go back and start over, filling in the next section and having the fun of seeing what happened exactly a year ago. Of course I bought a journal, and there it sits, empty on my nightstand.<br />
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Time to get started again with writing and connecting- Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-63567809681745687662015-04-01T12:06:00.001-07:002015-04-01T18:39:35.101-07:00Where do I start? ISWG post for April<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiZCvi0FwibBoq2Cihb3eZ1-l87m4ZK1ZjOQljfq9IVXW__-5GJ05EhXAvvwRFCYbOunG-zeSeFLj5lER_7-oZ1mYD7-EqxfrFONGPOEIyt07kGavJBrItpN4w8gHCqunMFX8d_U9Ba6lQ/s320/InsecureWritersSupportGroup2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiZCvi0FwibBoq2Cihb3eZ1-l87m4ZK1ZjOQljfq9IVXW__-5GJ05EhXAvvwRFCYbOunG-zeSeFLj5lER_7-oZ1mYD7-EqxfrFONGPOEIyt07kGavJBrItpN4w8gHCqunMFX8d_U9Ba6lQ/s320/InsecureWritersSupportGroup2.jpg" /></a></div><br />
This week's post is about getting back in the game. I thought I would start by first of all writing again, which is always a good place to start when you want to be a writer. Then I've been tossing around ideas such as children's books, a memoir (but our story is not finished yet), short stories to get established, and so on. <br />
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I had started to try a build a platform about my subject on facebook, twitter, and a blog but that was slow to get off the ground. An interesting thing started to happen too. I began to realize that although my topic, bullying, has been a top story in the news lately, most internet sites against bullying aren't very popular. I found a book in my local library by an author called Odd Girl Out, and looked up her website. The book hit the New York Times bestseller list but on facebook she only had 12K followers.<br />
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With my story and others that I began hearing through social media, I realized that society was prone to re-victimize the victims by placing blame on them vs. the bully. It was disheartening to say the least. I found even friends assuming when they heard our story sound sympathetic towards the bully, having come to the conclusion that she must be from an abusive home to act the way she did. The truth is- she came from an upper middle class, educated family that refused to believe her capable of such things, let alone take responsibility.<br />
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I've decided I do need to tell my story. Most people feel shame when their child is the target of bullying, but I am proud of my daughter. I taught her to be a kind, compassionate person. She's beautiful inside and out, and she's intelligent. She did nothing to provoke the bully, who had begun as a friend and turned into her worst nightmare. It's a story that parents and educators need to hear, and a story of hope as I will never give up on my girl. She will survive and succeed in recovery.<br />
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My daughter found a song on the internet called a Wanderer's Lullaby, which reduced me to a pile of tears. In part the lyrics say you are a "masterpiece in the making" and that is how I see her. I will do anything it takes to heal her and help her reach her potential.Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-76330232520598613732015-03-11T17:36:00.001-07:002015-03-11T17:36:20.126-07:00New beginnings<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-AyqIulcwmII/VQDcKE8HuBI/AAAAAAAAAcw/HQlmPqaWrwY/s1600/photo.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-AyqIulcwmII/VQDcKE8HuBI/AAAAAAAAAcw/HQlmPqaWrwY/s320/photo.JPG" /></a></div><br />
I am beginning again with writing, building a platform, and starting over in my life in many ways. We, as a family, are coming out of one of the darkest times any of us has ever been through. My daughter was diagnosed with PTSD from being severely bullied while in elementary school, and I feel compelled to share our experiences with this deeply personal journey.<br />
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I've been tossing around ideas- like a memoir, children's books, YA books or novels. Just the ideas themselves are overwhelming.<br />
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Plus I am still dealing with a crisis at home, even though it is calming down now. Between work and home life the important thing is to WRITE. Especially while everything we are going through is fresh in my mind. <br />
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I will start to journal, and then figure out the next step from there.<br />
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In the meantime I've been reading- I have so many books going I lost track of how many. At least 3 are non-fiction on PTSD, and the rest are for entertainment. I have a pile more lying around that I haven't even started yet.<br />
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Happily, my life is getting back into a routine and feeling more stable, and that in itself is comforting. If only we could go through life like a cat, and just sleep 16 hours a day, groom ourselves, and eat.Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-56721321837402456782015-02-04T17:28:00.000-08:002015-02-04T17:43:09.978-08:00Finding a platformHello fellow writers from the IWSG,<br />
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I'll be honest- I almost lost my daughter.<br />
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I'm turning my rage, sadness, and grief into a channel for good. I'm on a journey and writing is the only outlet I have for everything I'm feeling and going through right now. I'm starting a new blog that you can find listed under my profile called Bully Intervention Central and I would love your support. My goal is to write a series of children's books to help reach those like my daughter who are too afraid to speak up and end the bullying.<br />
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Back to writing I go-<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiZCvi0FwibBoq2Cihb3eZ1-l87m4ZK1ZjOQljfq9IVXW__-5GJ05EhXAvvwRFCYbOunG-zeSeFLj5lER_7-oZ1mYD7-EqxfrFONGPOEIyt07kGavJBrItpN4w8gHCqunMFX8d_U9Ba6lQ/s400/InsecureWritersSupportGroup2.jpg"></a>Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com16tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-75083206335293170602014-07-02T06:46:00.002-07:002014-07-02T06:48:29.177-07:00IWSG post<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-zJgnahcWVWY/T3Bxvb_WkXI/AAAAAAAAANE/FY2fVplojiM/s1600/azalea.JPG" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-zJgnahcWVWY/T3Bxvb_WkXI/AAAAAAAAANE/FY2fVplojiM/s320/azalea.JPG" /></a><br />
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My first post after who knows how long with the IWSG! Glad to be back.<br />
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What am I insecure about? Where do I start. . .<br />
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I think I struggle most with why am I wasting my time. I could say that regardless of if I ever get published, or let's be honest, even land an agent, I write just for me. But the truth is, I do want to be successful as a writer. I had no idea when I started a few years ago that it would be so difficult.<br />
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My husband is supportive, but I have children, a job, a home to maintain. How do I justify spending hours writing, reading, or critiquing when there is no guaranteed payoff. I really don't want fame, or even fortune (although I wouldn't mind a little money). I guess I just want validation. The right to say I'm a writer.<br />
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I've sent off a few short stories. Rejection. I've entered a few writing contests in the blogosphere. Not even an honorable mention. I've had a few writers critique my work. Nicely worded but god-awful. I've tried giving up, but here I am again because I have a story I have to tell.<br />
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Don't worry. I'm not depressed. I have an amazing life in every other aspect, but I just want to write too! I see others get agents, get published, win awards, and while I'm happy for them- I wish it could be me. <br />
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Sigh. <br />
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Well, I'm off to visit some others. Have a great month! See you then :)Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com34tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-1816544184342267912014-06-30T19:01:00.004-07:002014-07-01T14:40:23.800-07:00Monday post<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-JoWV_h3gvng/T0ZN5_oecsI/AAAAAAAAAK0/ZbKhCtaAyWk/s1600/fieldtree.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-JoWV_h3gvng/T0ZN5_oecsI/AAAAAAAAAK0/ZbKhCtaAyWk/s320/fieldtree.jpg" /></a></div><br />
Drifting in and out of the writing world as I do, everyone else seems to be incredibly productive. And then there's me. I make all kinds of goals, and then I follow that up with all kinds of excuses. Part of the problem is I'm addicted to time wasters like surfing the internet or watching mindless TV. I sit down to rest and instead of having quiet time, I turn on the TV or grab my computer and before I know it, the evening is gone. ARGH! Why do I do that?<br />
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My latest writing goal was to write a page a day. That was a couple of weeks ago and I have 3 pages. <br />
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How does anyone stay focused?<br />
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Then it's also summer break and the kids are home. Is it wrong to count the days for them to go back to school? I love them and all- just maybe not 24/7!! <br />
(As I'm writing this my 7 year old is sharing a cat book with me- on my bed, in my room, at 9:57 p.m.)<br />
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Me, "I think it's time for you to go to bed."<br />
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Her, "Never!"<br />
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That's what's happening here in the sunshine state- how 'bout you?Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-62185394537889621392014-06-10T20:28:00.002-07:002014-06-10T20:28:45.790-07:00I'm back!<br />
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I tried to stay away, but I couldn't. The story I had to tell has been churning inside and yes! at long last I'm back to writing.<br />
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This last year has been a lot of changes, but I've settled into my new home and new state, and I'm ready to move forward. But really, I'm also eager to get back out there and find out what all of you are doing now. Please stop in and catch me up!<br />
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Brief summary of where I am- I've just started hitting the keyboard to put down the story that's been evolving in my head. I've pretty much ditched the entire first novel I wrote, but I kept the essence of the characters because I liked them. I moved away from my writers' group in South Carolina but after the summer I will try to find a local chapter. I'm looking forward to that because I'm near a big city again and there seems to be a lot of support.<br />
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I'm looking forward to getting back into the online writers community because even though it was at times painful, I learned so much from you!<br />
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Looking forward to reading your blogs again!<br />
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RoseTess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-84797889452486262942013-11-24T16:40:00.001-08:002013-11-24T16:40:31.487-08:00Just BreatheJust breathe.<br />
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That's something I need to remind myself to do once in awhile. I've been staying away from my blog because this year has been a bit overwhelming. Between a huge move, health issues, and a few big trips, I've had a lot going on. <br />
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Part of the problem is myself. I would describe myself as a chicken little, "the world's falling" kind. Add to the anxiety issues a type A perfectionist and yup! that's me. I don't know how to inspire myself to keep writing when it is seemingly impossible to break out into the book world. I don't even want huge success. I just want some acknowledgement, but I don't do well with failure and rejection. Yet that is part of the process.<br />
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At the end of the day- I still want to write. Maybe just for me, but I will write.<br />
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As a reader, I've been taking apart the books I read as a writer. I don't do it with books that make me forget I'm reading, the really good ones. But I find those good ones so few and far between. The current one I'm reading feels like the writer was watching a Tom Cruise Mission Impossible movie. I'm bored. I don't want to read it anymore but I kinda want to know how it ends, so I'm trudging through it. <br />
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The writer tells instead of shows, and repeats things often, making me feel like he thinks his readers are dumb. And he's a best-selling author. <br />
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I don't mind a good action story, or movie for that matter, but you have to make it plausible. I'm one of those who misses the pre-special effects era when you actually had to have a plot. Same with books. <br />
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Finally, I know I didn't write much about my trip to Ecuador to visit my in-laws, but we did go, and the trip was wonderful. We had a really good time and no one got the stomach bug, which made it even better! I'd like to go back every year but we are currently broke and I'm looking for a job, so I don't think it will happen this year.<br />
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Whew! That was a lot. Thanks for hanging in there!Tess Julia http://www.blogger.com/profile/17850176812284692371noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315590614767346504.post-58627261414592982112013-10-03T15:59:00.000-07:002013-10-03T15:59:31.260-07:00Wow! It's October already!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-9fxtUSKkklo/Uk3wBRSi5MI/AAAAAAAAAW4/oXq2J_Sq4G4/s1600/100_2403.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-9fxtUSKkklo/Uk3wBRSi5MI/AAAAAAAAAW4/oXq2J_Sq4G4/s320/100_2403.JPG" /></a></div>I just realized my last post was back in March. How time flies! <br />
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A lot has happened since then for me and my family. We've moved and are now settled in our new home near the beach on the east coast. It's a beautiful, historic area with endless things to do, both indoors and out. After I established myself at the local library, I found a pamphlet on the area's writer memberships and conferences. They were holding a free flash fiction workshop at the library and were holding a weekend conference literally 5 minutes from my house! I'm excited to be in an area that is supportive of the arts at last! <br />
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Now if only I were writing :(<br />
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That will come with time. . .meanwhile I dabbled with painting a little. Just for myself and my family's enjoyment. Which explains the mermaid painting for my daughter, who is currently obsessed with mermaids. Next up will be a horse. (Also an obsession)<br />
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Another event to report is that I returned to Ecuador with my family this summer. It was my first trip back in 8 years and it was wonderful. Now I'm determined to retire there early when my youngest finishes school. I have a long time to go but I can dream in the meantime :)<br />
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I'm really looking forward to hearing from all of you in my long lost cyber writing world, and of hearing of your latest adventures too. I'll be making my rounds. . <br />
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